Perhaps one of the most challenging parts of a divorce is arranging the logistics of who gets what. It will require you to have some ongoing contact with your ex spouse, which can be painful as you're attempting to navigate a good settlement for yourself. Here are some tips on how to reduce the amount of conflict when splitting assets in a divorce.
First of all, you will want to set some boundaries for discussion with your ex spouse when you need to speak with them about legal arrangements. For example, letting them know that you aren't open to discussing the failed relationship at this time is a good boundary to set. When discussions get off-topic and emotional, you can choose to disengage and give each person some space until you can resume a more level-headed conversation.
Have Both Parties Think About What They Want
Another strategy to take on is to have each person come to the table having already thought about how they would like to split up assets. If both people have already thought about what they want, it can cut down the discussion time significantly. And maybe you will find that you already have a similar idea of how things should go. You can clear many issues off of the table to make room for the parts you still need to negotiate.
Get a Lawyer Involved
For those aspects where you don't immediately see eye to eye with your spouse, it's time to get a family law attorney involved. Arguing about things and trying to get the other person to shift their perspective can only lead to more pain for both people. Your family lawyer can help settle issues of custody, asset splitting and other logistical pieces of a divorce.
In many cases, the answer is more objective than you think. The law might dictate who gets what, especially if there was a prenuptial agreement involved. Custody arrangements are also settled in a straightforward manner by a judge. They will look at the attributes of each person as a parent and decide who is the better equipped person for custody. Of course, if you want that to be you, you should seek your family lawyer's help to beef up your case for custody.
In short, splitting assets in a divorce doesn't have to involved nasty blowout fights. Your legal counsel can help to keep things neutral by keeping the discussions on topic and helping you avoid unnecessary contact with your ex spouse. Contact a firm like Campbell, Dille, Barnett & Smith, P.L.L.C. to learn more.